Here's the truth about body weight that most people refuse to acknowledge:


In other words, whatever's happening within us, expresses itself on our outer body.

If there's heaviness inside, for example, whether it's

  • emotional turmoil

  • advanced medical complication, or

  • that stuck frozen state of just not moving or circulating that unhealed traumatic experiences create

you will see this physically manifest on your body ... BUT ....


I take a stand against societal voices and programming that judge and hate on larger bodies,

including what we are taught from a young age by the media and doctors and hospitals -

that if you don't weigh less than 150 pounds and have a body fat less than 20% you have a big, big, problem.

No, society, we do not.

We are on a journey, we are in a process, and we are headed for MORE -

more than you are exhibiting and demonstrating right now that you can or ever will know, apparently.

Body weight just IS  . . . and no matter the number on the scale,

the Spirit that runs and controls the body is always headed for MORE.

MORE expansion, more compassion, more love, more truth, more harmony.


How dare you judge it as wrong or bad or unhealthy?

How dare you reject bodies bigger than your limited thinking proclaims is right or correct or "okay" and acceptable?

How dare you?

It would be foolish to argue that our bodies were built and designed to do anything but experience JOY and move and function and circulate and be free of pain and stuckness -

but that doesn't mean it has to weigh this number or that number or ANY number.

And it certainly doesn't mean that every human being on the planet must be in this state right now, to be acceptable, or loved, or included in social or financial advances in the world.

Meeting examples of women who weigh more than what society currently prescribes as acceptable demonstrates same.

Looking at history, particularly the Renaissance era, when all bodies displayed in famous art pieces were robust and curvaceous and certainly not below 150 pounds.

Asking my Italian Nonna does too - she taught me that having a larger body, yes that means a large cushion of fat, has always signalled health and wealth in Europe, for time immemorial.

So what the heck has gone wrong with our world today?

Why are so many women, starting at early age of six years old, hating themselves and the way they look, which in turn affects their confidence, their self-esteem, and what risks and creative endeavours they endeavour to take in the world?

I have found that it's not just weight - it's weakness. That we live in a narcissistic society that defines power as looking as close to magazine supermodels as possible, making more money than your neighbour at any cost, and acting, behaving and presenting yourself in a "perfect" manner, that in effect suppresses and denies any experiences that may have been less than perfect in your life.

Like childhood neglect, or abuse.

Like rape or sexual assault or abuse, human trafficking, or being stalked or otherwise attacked.

Like domestic violence.

Like mental health challenges (when societal prescriptions are the very cause of them!),

or intuitive GIFTS that are categorized as mental health challenges because they are exceptional and outside of the norm, leaving narrow-minded powers-that-be dumbfounded as to what to do with them.

Like any kind of trauma or eccentricity that doesn't match those perfect images in magazines of a couple on a boat, sailing carefree and worry-free. Or family and parenting magazines demonstrating Martha Stewart perfect marital bliss (she did go to jail, remember?).

In the last 80 years these very real, very empowering experiences that lead us to MORE strength, resilience and compassion than ever, have been swept under the carpet.

Hidden from the public, drowned in shame, and deemed "weak" and wrong.

As if they never even went to physics class (did they)?

Because there we learn that everything works in perfect unison.

Our so-called imperfections like holding onto pounds and pounds of fat,

and the weight of their judgments and harmful prescriptions for living, too.

There is room for all of it . . . and for all of us to say NO WE WILL NOT BE FORCED TO HIDE AND LIVE IN SHAME BECAUSE YOU REFUSE TO ACCEPT US.

You're the ones teaching us that the Universe itself is always expanding and contracting, after all.

So when our bodies do, because we are living life in a world that mostly wants us to contract in shame, fear, humiliation,

when all our spirits want to do is DANCE with joy and celebration . . . especially with the PLUS-SIZE REVOLUTION pouring into free our spirits, and allow this JOY to be expressed on the outside, in larger clothes, beautiful colours, gorgeous fashion...

how about you see that we are perfect too?

Fat is actually perfect.

Right now.

Exactly as it is.

YOU are perfect, my Beloved Reader, exactly as you are, right here, right now.

How can it be any other way?


Body Image, Self LoveGina Silvestri