What to Do When Father's Day is Tough For You
Ahh, the father wound.
As a Success Coach helping business women who have been through trauma,
it’s my duty to go *deep* - to visit the shadows, that anchor us into the light,
even on a Happy Hallmark card day, like Father’s Day.
Because truly honouring fathers in this world means fully understanding what masculine energy is,
what it isn’t,
and how to *become* the empowered masculine energy that our world needs within ourselves, first and foremost.
Now, it would take me an entire book or more to explain ALL OF THAT.
Here's the most important part though:
NOT dealing with your father wound, which is all the disappointment you felt as a child, when it came to the relationship with your dad = holding back your business success.
...YES we all have father wounds....
and YES do this healing work *even if* people around you told you that it’s miniscule, petty,
and you’re being a spoilt princess even thinking about how your father hurt you.
THESE ARE YOUR FEELINGS.
They affect your whole life.
All 80-100 years of it.
And it’s nobody’s business but your own to get them aligned, straight, and working for you in your life, instead of against you.
Because when you're FEELING GOOD, everything works, doesn't it?
So if you’re walking around right with hurt feelings that are decades old,
and the gaping emotional wounds that grow and fester from what started as teeny tiny feelings,
then your life has morphed into some twisted adaptation of what it was meant to be.
Your businesss has too!!!
That just means there's ROOM to blossom further,
become MORE of who you're truly meant to be,
and what you're meant to be doing with your life,
and how you're meant to be expressing all of this in your business right now.
HERE IS WHAT YOUR LIFE IS MEANT TO BE:
scared at times,
Anything that doesn’t match this list is an abberration,
a twisted version of your essence,
which you may have even internalized.
That means you’ve taken lies about yourself and how wrong your feelings are in so deep,
that you’re now working against yourself.
This manifests as an out-of-control Inner Mean Girl who drives your life bus.
Most likely, you’re not even aware of her, as you keep on keeping on, not dealing with all this deep sh*t.
She eats at your self-esteem, your confidence, your ability to experience your true CAPABILITY, productivity, and potential.
AND all those patterns you’re so frustrated about with your romantic partners?
Yup, it’s true.
Not dealing with it makes you susceptible to repeating THE VERY WOUNDING you originally got so hurt from.
Then you end up inside of a never-ending looped day/week/decade/life like Bill Murray in the movie Groundhog Day.
Toxic dark shadowy love, romance, men, and marriage patterns then REPEAT REPEAT REPEAT THEMSELVES, year after year, decade after decade, driving you bonkers.
...*It’s not worth it, Gorgeous*....
So this Father’s Day,
give yourself a gift,
which will also gift your own father, sons, brothers, step-fathers, uncles, romantic partners,
ALL THE MEN IN YOUR LIFE
the greatest gift they’ll ever know.
That’s you, going in and clearing the shadowy father wound that still lives inside of you,
then getting on with the successful damn life you know damn well you’re meant to be living.
At the very least,
take a moment of silence to yourself to reflect, to contemplate this,
to make a commitment to yourself right now, to get to the work of doing this.
Mark it in your calendar, call a healer or coach, make it tangible and real,
then say …
I am brave enough
to walk this path now.
I love myself enough to do it.
I will figure out how.
I’ll face the father wound within me, to ensure the rest of my life expereinces, DEEPLY FULFILL my soul.
To release that twisted, dark, morphed up part of my life,
(which does it’s necessary work of waking us up, so we can move to our next evolution level … twisting us up all the same, as it does)
and let the golden energy in, on all levels: relationships, health, spiritual, emotional, mental, financial.
You’ve got this, Girl.
XO Success Coach Gina