BLACK FRIDAY SALE + DON'T LET THIS MINDSET BEAST GET YOU

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BLACK FRIDAY SALE + DON'T LET THIS MINDSET BEAST GET YOU

I AM SOOOOOO TIRED OF + SOOOO OVER PEOPLE SHAMING BUSINESS OWNERS FOR NOT BEING “CONSISTENT” !!! THIS DOESN’T MAKE YOU LAZY OR NOT CUT OUT TO BE AN ENTREPRENEUR, *AT ALL*


I am tuning into this more than ever right now.....


...especially this week, as people have been asking me the same questions, over and over and over again, questions like “why can’t I be more consistent with my business?” “why aren’t I showing up on social media like so and so or so and so??” “what is wrong with me???"


 As a mentor since 2009, I’ve been priveleged enough to see a certain side of this damaging, self-sabotaging beast that threatens all of our success.


AND I SAW THE UGLIEST SIDE OF ITS UNDERBELLY THIS WEEK!!!


So, I just had to share (obvi) - here’s how it goes:


Sometimes. you show up and do your passionate business soul work.


Sometimes, you don’t.


Those times that you don’t is when this side of the beast roars up to take you down.


I’ve battled this one myself, many many MANY times.


I’ve felt like ….


I wasn’t a good coach at all, if, even though I’m showing up for my clients behind-the-scenes, consistently, without fail - if I’m not on top of my social media or email game, then I’m an utter and complete failure.


I’ve also felt like ….


If I “can’t” show up consistently for my people on social media, WELL THEN I guess I’m just not cut out for this kind of work, am I?


  • I should just quit, find a job, and be done with it.

  • Ignore my deepest, truest soul calling, and be done with it all.

  • Fck it all …. all because I’m not mechanically and robotically showing up on social media, like a machine, like the other business and mindset coaches do.


Have you felt this way too, Love?


That you may as well throw in the towel, because you’ve told yourself for years and YEARS (or months and months or weeks and weeks) that you’ll FOR SURE show up every day this time, nothing can stop you …. and then … you don’t?


It feels like hell, I know. I’ve been there - one TOO MANY times. In fact, it had the effect of making me not showing up even more, as I mired in shame and guilt and self-doubt and questioning myself and eating all the comfort food I could find while I did.


THANK GOODNESS THOSE DAYS ARE DONE!


I’m grateful they taught me what they taught me, and I needed them exactly as they were - AND - ALLELUJAH they’re over for me.


I know they may not be over for you though.


SO …… having battled this beast down to the ground, 


I’d like to share the ONE THING that moved the needle on this one for me.


******YOU EITHER ARE AVAILABLE FOR YOUR PURPOSE IN THIS MOMENT, OR YOU’RE NOT*****


Period, the end.


Sometimes you're healing, sometimes you're in "cocoon" mode - and both are more than okay.


They're necessary - especially if you've been through trauma.


Yes, yes. OF COURSE I see the value in being a consistent, empowered force for our audience, and I work toward that continuously, no matter what - as I’m sure you do, too.


What I am letting go of today, and encourage you to LET GO OF TODAY, is this idea that there’s something wrong WITH YOU or something bad about you, because you’re engaging in this on-again, off-again behaviour.


You’re a human being!!!


You’ve been through trauma!!!!


Cut yourself a break, Girl…. because when you start making ANYTHING including behaviours or feelings or thoughts or ideas mean something about WHO YOU ARE, you’re in a danger zone.


A zone I’m here to get you out of, right now.


HELL NO can anything at all, in this world - anything you ever say or do or think or feel - mean that you are anything but a precious soul, doing her best here as she figures out life here on planet earth.


BEING INCONSISTENT IS NOT A SIGN THAT YOU ARE A BAD PERSON, LAZY OR NOT GOOD ENOUGH TO BE AN ENTREPRENEUR!!!


You are simply just available right now to serve others, OR you’re not.


End of story.


There’s no more meaning to it, than that.


Now, let me be clear, this does not apply to situations where you’ve made a promise, like to fulfill a mentoring package for a client - I strongly believe no-one should enter such contracts in the first place, unless they know for certain that they can deliver the service or product, exactly as advertised and promised. (and if in the VERY RARE circumstance that someone pays you and you can’t fulfil, you provide refund immediately).


What I’m referring to is you, just doing YOU, daily, on the regular.


Yes, again, it’s ideal to show up and have a team showing up publishing your content for you in a steady stream, all day, every day, even while you’re on vacay or asleep - but you’re no there yet …


AND THAT’S OKAY!


All those people you see online who are “there” were in this phase of INCONSISTENCY at some point, too.


And the only way they got through was loving themselves through the inconsistent process, and letting go of any negative judgment toward themselves about it.


I get that many many many many MANY coaches and mentors and speakers are preaching online how consistency is everything, and you must must must be consistent … OR ELSE….


but we don’t have to plug into this energy.


LIKE AT ALL.


Got it?


Stay true to you, My Love!


Be you, as you are, right now.


And keep walking, imperfectly perfectly toward your vision,


not giving a damn about what the “you must be consistent or bust right now” beasts of the internet say - which can become self-sabotaging beasts of your inner world, IF YOU LET THEM!!!


You’ve got this,

XOXO 

Success Coach Gina


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Gina Silvestri