PTSD MATTERS ... IT'S NOT AN EXCUSE!

PTSD MATTERS ... IT'S NOT AN EXCUSE!

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PTSD MATTERS ... IT'S NOT AN EXCUSE!

Before I understood and was able to make sense of the whirlwind plethora of my traumatic past and how it impacted my brain and therefore the life I lived afterward, I glanced at therapists who said “definitely Post-Traumatic-Stress-Disorder (PTSD)” as if they’d just handed me my parking ticket receipt and allowed me to exit their parkade.


“Okay, got it. Thank you!”


I never gave it much thought afterward. Never googled it, never went to the library for it (since we didn’t have google back when I was first diagnosed).

I just carried on my day as if I was like everybody else…

Because that’s all I could handle at the time. Even the thought of me being different from anyone else - especially to the point of being “out of control” and nasty violent like the war veterans in mainstream movies - was too much.


That’s not me. It can’t be. I’m nothing like them.


So yes, thank you. Thanks for the diagnosis. I’ll be on my way now!


Denial is a whole other topic for a different blog entry, the point I’m making here is this: we’ve got to understand the layers of our PTSD to heal … but we can’t do that without fully, deeply, lovingly and honestly accepting that we have been impacted by trauma in certain ways (which is all the label of PTSD really is).


After three decades of this work, I’ve found mindset is most powerful way to begin doing this deeper work.


SO WHAT IS MINDSET?


Mindset is your attitude and belief system. It’s comprised of all your thoughts, which, when repeated long enough, become belief systems.


.. AND WHAT’S A MINDSET SOLUTION?


A mindset solution solves those sneaky and mysterious success challenges that we all face, at one time or another, as business owners who have been through trauma.


Those unusual challenges you see going on in your business, and with your money, that you can’t put your finger on. Like . ..


  • feeling like you have all the right training and tools, but no money actually comes in.

  • knowing what will bring you success, but watching month after month, year after year, and decade after decade pass, without doing it.

  • an intuitive knowing that you are getting in your own way of your own success - because you’re know your meant for it, you watch others do it, yet you stop yourself every time.


Can you see how it’s not actually a mystery at all, even though it seems that way, at first?


We all just have blind spots, so we need support with “seeing” what’s going on, untangling that, then keeping the new thought patterns and resulting habits going, until it catches on and we can do it ourselves.


A mindset mentor & coach like myself, will show you exactly how to untangle and maintain, then support you and hold you accountable until you feel fully empowered and achieve the business results you desire.


Today I am showing you the exact thoughts that stopped me (and may be stopping you) from really getting deep in my bones that my PTSD matters and it’s not an excuse.


HERE ARE THE THOUGHTS STOPPED ME (AND MAY BE STOPPING YOU) FROM ACCEPTING MY DIAGNOSIS AND THEREFORE GETTING THE SUPPORT AND HEALING I ALWAYS REALLY NEEDED …


You’re always coming up with something.

Labels are over-rated, even the ones doctors use.

Stop drawing attention to yourself.

You’re embarrassing yourself!

Why do you always need to be sick, with something?

PTSD is for war veterans, not you!

You’ll say anything to get attention.

What’s next, you’re dying of cancer?

You’re way too sensitive.

Lots of doctors are quacks and make mistakes, you know, you don’t have PTSD.

You’re just crazy.

You’re just trying to milk the system so you don’t have to work.

Stop being such a victim!

Get over yourself.


I know, I know! UGHHH, RIGHT????!!!???

Walking around with all this crap in my head wasn’t easy - and I know it’s not easy for you, either.

Trauma survivors are always hardest on themselves and it breaks my heart because they need love, particularly self-love, the most!



WHY YOUR PTSD MATTERS TOO AND IS NOT EVER AN EXCUSE


Living with this toxic thought root in your being, your energy is like trying to build a successful business empire on quicksand. It will never work! Not for the long haul (which is why so many online businesses pop up for a hot second, then you never see them again).


Telling yourself “there you go again, using your PTSD as an excuse again” kills your healing. It’s self-sabotage at its finest.

If you had cancer, or diabetes, you wouldn’t feel bad going for chemo or injecting insulin, would you?


Of course not! You need it. To live. To save your life right now.


Loving yourself with PTSD, which includes accepting that you have PTSD in the first place -which later leads to the deep knowing that you can heal it and overcome this completely - is essential to moving forward with your healing.


It’s not an excuse, Gorgeous Soul. 


It’s a perfectly normal effect of having been through what you’ve been through.


Period, the end.


There’s nothing “wrong” with you now, nor has there ever been.


It’s just cause and effect.


Treating the cause, is everything - because untreated, that trauma lives on, eternally.


Literally!


So you CAN heal, if you focus on that cause (no matter how old it is) and clear the impact it’s having on you, and has been having on you.



THE GIFT BEHIND THE WINGS OF DOING THIS MINDSET WORK


And so … as it goes with many things “trauma” we were the ones stopping ourselves.


Because, otuside of those traumatic circumstances, which, for many of us, happened YEARS (if not decades ago), nobody can actually stop us.


Nobody!


Can you feel the good news of this?

Yes, it’s shitty to realize that we’ve been stopping ourselves all these years - but it also means that if we have that much power, we can create what we want around us.


Starting right now.


Thoughts create things, Beautiful. One little thought turns into a feeling, then deeper into a mood, which determines what kind of action you take at any given moment - and those actions create your entire life … including the money in your bank account and how fulfilled you feel in your heart!


XOXO Success Coach Gina 

Gina Silvestri